I’m am saddened [but not surprised] to discover that my good friend mentioned in my ‘Every now and then….’ post that came to my support a few days ago is now subject to a similar fate from the same quarter. In the same cowardly way there’s a barrage of anonymous ranting on the public forum and plenty of ‘naming of names’ behind the scenes. No direct contact to intiate adult discussion so allowing ‘L’ to defend herself. No sign of asking for or hearing both sides of the story. No, just unkind hinting at what might be going on so leaving everyone to make huge [and mostly incorrect] assumptions.
I have realised that those people who protest the loudest ‘doth’ often have the most to hide especially if there’s a grain of truth in what they’re protesting about.
A valuable lesson I have learnt in recent years is when I’m angry or frustrated I stand back and take a long, hard look at myself. Often times it’s my own conscience giving me a metaphorical slap. It’s usually myself or my circumstances that I’m really angry and disappointed with, not the person I’m blaming. To apportion blame upon others is to take the heat off oneself. Either that or someone sometimes hits a real ‘truth’ nerve with me and the truth does hurt on occasion doesn’t it??
I am still aghast at how naive people will be when only given one side of a story. I cannot understand why people will just unquestioningly believe what they’re told without being in full posession of the facts or hearing the full story from ALL involved. Following blindly where they are led without a murmur. Didn’t some guy called Hitler start a holocaust based on a similar method of indoctrination?? Scary stuff!!
This has just confirmed to me that my decision not to return or defend myself was the right one. I’m glad I just stepped back and walked away. God put it on my heart to just let it be and He was, as always, right. The thing I always called my ‘gut’ instinct in my pre-Christian days is in fact my God instinct [the Holy Spirit] and I’ve learnt never to ignore it because when I do things go badly wrong.
So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, “He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.” John 8:7 KJV
I am sad for ‘L’ and unhappy that by supporting me she has placed herself in a vulnerable and somewhat distressing position. Like me she is refusing to be drawn into the scrum. I pray for reconciliation and open minds and hearts. Life is too short and too precious for this kind of thing to even be given a second thought.